Who We’re Really Waiting For?

I came across something online the other night—just a simple question, really: “Who do we long for?”

It stopped me in my tracks.

Not because it was groundbreaking, but because it felt deeply familiar. Like someone had peeked into the quiet corners of my heart and named something I hadn’t fully put into words yet. I found myself sitting with that question for a while. Thinking about the kind of love we hope for… the love we deserve.

So, I opened my notes app and started typing. And as I did, it hit me: what we long for isn’t just romance or affection. It’s being seen. It’s being safe. It’s being chosen without hesitation, not just once, but again and again. And that longing, isn’t it? And it’s valid. It’s human.  But sometimes, in the noise of life and the ache of past disappointments, we settle. We accept “almost” because we’re afraid “real” might never come.

But real love? The kind that holds space for all that you are? It exists.

And I believe we all deserve to experience it.

Here’s what I came up with that night (from the heart):

Who We’re Really Waiting For

We crave a kind of love that feels safe.

Not the grand gestures or perfect words—but someone who gets it. Who understands emotional weight without needing every detail explained.

Someone emotionally mature, thoughtful, and kind… the kind of person who makes us feel like home without trying too hard.

There are nights we lie awake, quietly hoping that maybe—just maybe—tomorrow we’ll meet that person who makes life feel like a story Colleen Hoover would write…

Raw. Real. Messy. Beautiful.

We long for someone who sees us—not just when it’s convenient, but always.

Someone who respects our boundaries, shows up for us, and never makes us feel like a backup plan.

We want someone who protects our peace like it’s sacred.

Who chooses us with intention, who doesn’t flinch when it’s time to show up—even when it’s not easy.

We want love that still chases us after it has us.

A kind of love that grows deeper with time, not duller.

We want someone who doesn’t just say they care—but proves it in the little things.

In showing up. In checking in. In loving us in our loud moments and our silences.

And maybe you haven’t met that person yet.

Maybe you’ve settled before, or dimmed your light trying to be “easier to love.”

But hear this:  It is never too late to be chosen by the kind of love that sees all of you—and stays anyway.

Your time is precious. Stop giving it away to people who only love you in pieces.

I share this with you not just as a reminder, but as a little nudge.  Don’t forget who you are. Don’t forget what you bring to the table.

And please, don’t stay with someone who doesn’t see your worth or makes you question it.

You deserve a love that’s full, present and true. And you are never too much for the right person.

With love,

Cristina